Ask help

11 reasons why you should ask for help

I used to think that asking for help meant that I was not good enough and I saw it as a last resort.

More recently, I’ve been asking for help a lot. I’ve stepped out of my comfort zone and asked a surprising number of people for help in surprising circumstances.

What I found as I asked for help was that people really want to help and are delighted to be given the chance. Even with strangers or people I don’t know very well, people genuinely want to contribute, they want to share their experience, they want to add value where they can.

Here are my 11 reasons to ask for help:

1. Intimacy and connection – When you ask for help, people see who you are, what you stand for, what’s important to you and where you get stuck. You become seen and known and that builds intimacy and connection.
2. Trust - When you put your trust in the person helping you, they are more willing to trust you too. It becomes reciprocal.
3. Improved relationships – Relationships improve because they are built on trust. People are more likely to invole you in future decisions that they make.
4. Receiving - Giving is only really of value when you know what it is like to receive as well. See another article on Giving and receiving. Asking for help provides an opportunity for you to receive graciously.
5. Giving - When you receive, you are giving someone else the opportunity to provide support and give something to you. Other people want to give too and they get to share their talents and experience when you ask them for help.
6. Feeling included – One of the primary motivators for teams is to feel included in the decision-making. When you ask them for help, they feel part of the process and are more committed to the end result.
7. Vulnerability - Asking for help shows your vulnerability. Being vulnerable is powerful. It’s authentic, it’s compelling, it builds trust, it shows you are human.
8. More available time – It enables you to let go of needing to do everything yourself and this allows you to have more time for other things.
9. Speed - Asking for help can speed up the task because someone else can bring their experience to the table.
10. Quality - You get a better result because you are blending together different viewpoints and additional experience.
11. Love - When you ask for help, you are letting other people in to your heart. They help because they want to, because they love you. See a previous article on Putting love back into business

At first, asking for help can be uncomfortable if it’s not your normal style. It’s a bit like building a muscle… the more you do it, the easier it becomes.

Putting it into practice

1. Try letting go of needing to look good and be on top of everything.
2. Ask a friend for help at least once this week. What is the impact on your relationship?

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