Top things to look when house hunting

If you're thinking about buying a new (or old!) home, our list of the "Top Things to Look for When Buying a Home" can help to get your search off to the right start. While the number of rooms, condition of the kitchen, and size of the yard are important, there are other things to consider before you make an offer.

• Location, Location, Location
  They say that the 3 most important things to think about when buying are home are location, location, location. You can live with almost any imperfection in a home if you love the neighborhood and your neighbors. You can change almost everything else. But, once bought, you cannot change your home's location. When you go house hunting, consider any potential home's proximity to your work, the charm of the neighborhood, how the home is situated on the lot, ease of access, noise from neighbors, traffic, or pets, and access to parks, shopping, schools, and public transportation.
• Situation Factors
  Beyond location, look at the particular site of the home. If the home is on a hill does it have a view, a walkout basement, or lots of stairs to climb? Do neighbors' windows look directly into the home? Is the yard suitable for kids, pets, gardening, or other uses? Is access to the property safe regarding driveway elevation, stairs up to (or down to) the front door?
• Check Out the Neighborhood
  Be sure the neighborhood, and not just the house, meets your expectations. They say that you should own the smallest home in the nicest neighborhood that you can afford. You'll have a great view! Drive around on week days and weekends, during the day and in the evening. Are homes in the neighborhood consistent in size and features? Do the neighbors keep the yards clean and tidy or are there old cars and trash around? Is the neighborhood safe enough for people to walk, run, or bike and are there children playing in the yards?
• Consider a Home's Curb Appeal
  Your home should reflect your lifestyle. Do you live a laid-back life? Then you might not want a formal Victorian or Tudor style home. Something simpler and more contemporary might be in order. Look at the exterior features. A brick home is easier to maintain, unless you live in an earthquake-prone area! Is the roof in good condition? Is the landscaping attractive and are the sidewalks leading to the home safe?
  Read here about choosing, buying, and applying Exterior Paint.
• Size and Floor Plan
  You may be thinking about buying your dream home. But is your dream home impractical? Do you really need 4 bedrooms and 4 baths when you live alone? A large home can give you the extra space you've always wanted for a home office or crafts or art projects. But you'll pay higher heating bills and have higher taxes. It will take more furniture to furnish and money to decorate. Think about how the new home space will be used and whether it will fit your lifestyle now and in the future.

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For alcohol drinker

• Tip 1. Never go drink on an empty stomach
  I told you I got sick twice from too much drinking. To be honest, though, I didn’t drink that much. Both times, the real reason was that I hadn’t eaten anything before getting to the party. No, chips, peanuts and other tiny snacks are not FOOD. Alcohol absorption is increased by hunger, you get more dizzy from one beer on an empty stomach feels than from two on a full one.
• Tip 2. You decide how much you drink, not your friends
  It’s not a contest. You DON’T need to drink all the beers your friends give you. Not all men/women are born equal. Some hold their liquor better than others. If you start feeling bad, but your friends insist to keep drinking, just STOP. Go drink some juice or water instead. This applies especially to skinny people – alcohol absorption is dependent on the body structure/weight, which also means generally girls are less alcohol resistant than boys. (though I’ve met plenty of exceptions as well)
• Tip 3. Make it last longer
  Nobody likes it short. If you finish your beer in a minute you’ll be the one not drinking while the others do, and you’ll feel compelled to get a new one. So, instead, make it last longer. Talk, take a sip, talk some more, eat some chips, talk some more. A cool tip one Englishman taught me was to mix beer and sprite – one bottle of beer, one of sprite, mixed 50/50 in one glass. It obviously lasts twice as long, yet you drink the same amount of alcohol. Your friends will not even notice.
  
• Tip 4. Don’t mix the drinks and always eat between them
  This is also well known – don’t drink strong liquor(whiskey) followed by beer, by champagne, by strong liquor, by beer, etc. You’ll get drunk, faster and uglier. You’ll get sick. So, don’t: never alternate drinks. At parties around here, for instance, we’d drink the stronger liquors(martini, whiskey and such) as an appetizer, then we’d eat the hors-d’oeuvres, followed by wine with the main course. If it takes longer, it would be followed by snacks and beer. In the end, if the case, the sweet wine/sparkling goes with the cake. Notice the rule? Don’t go back, and always eat between different drinks.
• Tip 5. Oily food – less alcohol absorption
  An oily esophagus/stomach absorbs less alcohol. This is a tip for the hard-core drunkards, but they probably know it already.
• Tip 6. When dizzy, take a break
  After three-four half-a-litter pints and not enough snacks in between I’d get dizzy and start having problems with equilibrium. It’s time for a break – walk out in fresh air, get some water on my face, stay a while in a quieter place. There’s no harm in it – just tell your buds you went to the loo.
• Tip 7. When feeling sick, go throw up
  If you didn’t follow through the previous tips, you may eventually feel really bad. The room is spinning, you feel a bit like wanting to throw up, only not quite so. The first time it happened it ruined the party for me. I would just sit in a corner, trying to clear my head and feel better. No success. Luckily, someone with more experience helped me – I went to the toilet and forced myself to throw up(one finger down the throat). After rejecting the alcohol in excess, and after freshing up, you’ll feel a lot better.

For alcohol drinker

• Tip 1. Never go drink on an empty stomach
  I told you I got sick twice from too much drinking. To be honest, though, I didn’t drink that much. Both times, the real reason was that I hadn’t eaten anything before getting to the party. No, chips, peanuts and other tiny snacks are not FOOD. Alcohol absorption is increased by hunger, you get more dizzy from one beer on an empty stomach feels than from two on a full one.
• Tip 2. You decide how much you drink, not your friends
  It’s not a contest. You DON’T need to drink all the beers your friends give you. Not all men/women are born equal. Some hold their liquor better than others. If you start feeling bad, but your friends insist to keep drinking, just STOP. Go drink some juice or water instead. This applies especially to skinny people – alcohol absorption is dependent on the body structure/weight, which also means generally girls are less alcohol resistant than boys. (though I’ve met plenty of exceptions as well)
• Tip 3. Make it last longer
  Nobody likes it short. If you finish your beer in a minute you’ll be the one not drinking while the others do, and you’ll feel compelled to get a new one. So, instead, make it last longer. Talk, take a sip, talk some more, eat some chips, talk some more. A cool tip one Englishman taught me was to mix beer and sprite – one bottle of beer, one of sprite, mixed 50/50 in one glass. It obviously lasts twice as long, yet you drink the same amount of alcohol. Your friends will not even notice.
  
• Tip 4. Don’t mix the drinks and always eat between them
  This is also well known – don’t drink strong liquor(whiskey) followed by beer, by champagne, by strong liquor, by beer, etc. You’ll get drunk, faster and uglier. You’ll get sick. So, don’t: never alternate drinks. At parties around here, for instance, we’d drink the stronger liquors(martini, whiskey and such) as an appetizer, then we’d eat the hors-d’oeuvres, followed by wine with the main course. If it takes longer, it would be followed by snacks and beer. In the end, if the case, the sweet wine/sparkling goes with the cake. Notice the rule? Don’t go back, and always eat between different drinks.
• Tip 5. Oily food – less alcohol absorption
  An oily esophagus/stomach absorbs less alcohol. This is a tip for the hard-core drunkards, but they probably know it already.
• Tip 6. When dizzy, take a break
  After three-four half-a-litter pints and not enough snacks in between I’d get dizzy and start having problems with equilibrium. It’s time for a break – walk out in fresh air, get some water on my face, stay a while in a quieter place. There’s no harm in it – just tell your buds you went to the loo.
• Tip 7. When feeling sick, go throw up
  If you didn’t follow through the previous tips, you may eventually feel really bad. The room is spinning, you feel a bit like wanting to throw up, only not quite so. The first time it happened it ruined the party for me. I would just sit in a corner, trying to clear my head and feel better. No success. Luckily, someone with more experience helped me – I went to the toilet and forced myself to throw up(one finger down the throat). After rejecting the alcohol in excess, and after freshing up, you’ll feel a lot better.

While Meditation

Meditation is a definite process for resolving conflicts. It is the simple and exact process of becoming aware of who you are. It is learning to know yourself as you really are. Meditation is a practice of gently freeing yourself from the worries that gnaw at you, so that you can be free and respond to the needs of the moment, and experience the joy of being fully present. Meditation is not what you think, for it is beyond thinking. You do not meditate on your problems in order to solve them, but through meditation you see through the problems you have set up for yourself.

The World Within
Meditation is a practical means for calming yourself, for letting go of your biases and seeing what is, openly and clearly. It is a way of training the mind so that you are not distracted and caught up in its endless churning. Meditation teaches you to systematically explore your inner dimensions. It is a system of commitment, not commandment. You are committing to yourself, to your path, and to the goal of knowing yourself.

Meditation is not a ritual belonging to any particular religion, culture, or group. It is a method of knowing the one reality from which all religions spring. For example, the Bible clearly says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Learning how to be still is the method of meditation. And if you meditate regularly you will find that you have become more calm, yet alert to what is needed in the present moment.

Most people associate calmness with passivity, but the peace that meditation brings releases energy. Worry and preoccupation dissipate your strength. Meditation frees the energy that has been bound in your mental discord so that you can apply yourself one-pointedly to whatever you decide to do. Meditation will lead your mind to become more concentrated, so that you can fully focus on whatever you choose. Because of this, those who meditate will learn almost anything more easily and more quickly.

From childhood onward, you are taught to examine and understand things in the external world, but nobody teaches you to look within and understand the mind and its various states. All of your training has been to know the outer world, and to become skillful at manipulating the external world for your own benefit. But unless you learn to know yourself, whatever you do in the external world will not produce the results you want. If a tire is out of balance, no matter how wonderfully it was designed in other respects, it will not function properly. Unless you achieve inner balance, no matter how much you know about performing in the outer world, you will fall short of your goals. Meditation is the means of achieving this inner balance.

Those who have examined the objects of the external world understand their transitory nature and know that life has more to give. Then they start searching within themselves and conducting “inner research.” Meditation is a systematic technique of inner research. It is like a ladder with many rungs which finally leads to the roof, and from there one can see the vast horizon all around.

Meditation will lead you to a state of inner joy. You think that pleasure comes from your contact with the objects of the world, but there is an inner and finer joy that you have not yet tasted. Those who have been researchers in the external world, who have examined its pleasures and joys, discover that the highest of all joys is meditation, and this joy leads to that eternal joy called samadhi. Such great ones like to keep their eyes partially closed, looking into the innermost light that shines within this frame of life.

Meditation will give you a tranquil mind. Meditation will make you aware of the reality deep within. Meditation will make you fearless; meditation will make you calm; meditation will make you gentle; meditation will make you loving; meditation will give you freedom from fear; meditation will lead you to the state of inner joy. If you understand these goals and want to meditate, then it will help you, but if you are expecting to become rich through meditation, then don’t do it.

Full Attention
Meditation is not a difficult task that you must force upon yourself; once you experience that inner joy you will spontaneously want to meditate as much as you now look forward to outer pleasures. Nevertheless, it is very helpful to establish a routine to your meditative practice. Just as you eat at certain times of the day, and look forward to eating as those times approach, so too, by developing the habit of meditating at the same time each day your whole being—your body, breath, and mind—will look forward to meditating at that time. You should sit down every day at exactly the same time. Establish a specific time for your practice and do your practice every day at that time.

The first thing you have to learn is to be still. This process begins with physical stillness. According to the tradition that we follow, the asana, or meditative posture, is carefully selected according to your nature and capacity, and you are guided by a competent teacher to keep your head, neck, and trunk straight. After choosing a sitting posture, good students learn to become accomplished in it.

After accomplishing stillness with the help of the meditative posture, you will become aware of obstacles arising from muscle twitching, tremors occurring in various parts of the body, shaking, and itching. These obstacles arise because the body has never been trained to be still. We are trained to move in the external world faster and faster, but nobody trains us to remain still. To learn this stillness, you should form a regular habit, and to form this habit you should learn to be regular and punctual, practicing the same posture at the same time and at the same place every day until the body stops rebelling against the discipline given to it. This step, though basic, is important and should not be ignored. Otherwise, you will not be able to reap the fruits of meditation and your efforts will be wasted.

You should find a simple, uncluttered, quiet place where you will not be disturbed. Sit on the floor with a cushion under you or in a firm chair, with your back straight and your eyes closed. Then bring your awareness slowly down through your body, allowing all of the muscles to relax except those that are supporting your head, neck, and back. Take your time and enjoy the process of letting go of the tension in your body. Meditation is the art and science of letting go, and this letting go begins with the body and then progresses to thoughts.

Once the body is relaxed and at peace, bring your awareness to your breath. Notice which part of your lungs are being exercised as you breathe. If you are breathing primarily with your chest you will not be able to relax. Let your breathing come primarily through the movement of the diaphragm. Continue to observe your breath without trying to control it. At first the breath may be irregular, but gradually it will become smooth and even, without pauses and jerks.

Meditation is a process of giving your full attention to whatever object you have chosen. In this case you are choosing to be aware of the breath. Allow yourself to experience your breathing in an open and accepting way. Do not judge or attempt to control or change it. Open yourself so fully that eventually there is no distinction between you and the breathing. In this process many thoughts will arise in your mind: “Am I doing this right? When will this be over? My nostril is clogged—should I get up and blow my nose before I continue? Perhaps I should have closed the window. I forgot to make an important call. My neck hurts.” Hundreds of thoughts may come before you and each thought will call forth some further response: a judgment, an action, an interest in pursuing the thought further, an attempt to get rid of the thought.

At this point, if you simply remain aware of this process instead of reacting to the thought, you will become aware of how restless your mind is. It tosses and turns like you do on a night when you cannot fall asleep. But that is only a problem when you identify with the mind and react to the various thoughts it throws at you. If you do, you will be caught in a never-ending whirlwind of restless activity. But if you simply attend to those thoughts when they arise, without reacting, or if you react and attend to the reaction, then they cannot really disturb you. Remember—it is not the thoughts that disturb you, but your reaction to them. It is not a sound that disturbs your meditation, but your reaction to it.

Meditation is very simple. It is simply attending. You can begin by attending to your breath, and then if a thought comes, attend to it, notice it, be open to it—and it will pass. Then you can come back to the breath. Your normal response is to react to all your thoughts, and this keeps you ever busy in a sea of confusion. Meditation teaches you to attend to what is taking place within without reacting, and this makes all the difference. It brings you freedom from the mind and its meandering. And in this freedom you begin to experience who you are, distinct from your mental turmoil. You experience inner joy and contentment, you experience relief and inner relaxation, and you find a respite from the tumult of your life. You have given yourself an inner vacation.

The Foundation For Peace
This inner vacation is not a retreat from the world but the foundation for finding inner peace. You must also learn to apply the principle of attending in your worldly activities so that you can apply yourself in the world more effectively. Through practicing meditation you can learn to be open to what comes before you in the world and give it your full attention.

Ordinarily, you react to the experiences that come before you in the world in much the same way that you react to your thoughts. If someone says something negative to you, you become upset or depressed. If you lose something, you react emotionally. Your mood depends on what comes before you and, as a result, your life is like a roller coaster ride. You react before you have fully experienced what you are reacting to; what you see or hear immediately pushes a button. You interpret that according to your expectations, fears, prejudices, or resistances. You short-circuit the experience, and thus you limit yourself to one or two conditioned responses. You give up your ability to respond to a situation openly and creatively.

But if you apply the principle of meditation to experiences that come before you, you can fully attend to what is taking place. You can attend to your initial reaction without reacting to your reaction: “Oh, look at how threatened I feel by that.” You need not deny your reaction. Let yourself be open to experiencing it and it will move through you and allow other spontaneous responses to also come forward, so that you can select the one that is most helpful in that particular situation.

In this way meditation is very therapeutic. It not only leads to inner balance and stability, it also exposes your inner complexes, your immaturities, your unproductive reflexes and habits. Instead of living in these and acting them out, they are brought to your awareness and you can give them your full attention. Only then will they be cleared.

Patient Practice
Competent teachers instruct students in how to be free from external influences and how to follow the primary steps, so that the body, senses, and mind are prepared for meditative experiences. If the preliminaries are ignored, then students may waste years and years hallucinating and fantasizing, simply feeding their egos and not attaining any deeper experiences.

But there is one serious problem. Modern students are like children who plant seeds in the evening and early the next morning wake up and start digging up the seeds to see what has happened. Of course, nothing has happened; the seeds are still there so the child covers them up again and pours water on them. Then, in the afternoon, the child wants to examine the seeds again. Let the seeds of your practice grow; give your practice some time to develop.

Have patience and do your practice systematically. Every action has a reaction. It is not possible for you to do meditation and not receive benefits. You may not notice those benefits now, but slowly and gradually you are storing the samskaras (impressions) in the unconscious mind that will help you later. If you sow a seed today, you don’t reap the fruit tomorrow, but eventually you will. It takes time to see results; be gentle with yourself.

Meditation means gently fathoming all the levels of yourself, one level after another. Be honest with yourself. Don’t care what others say about their experiences—keep your mind focused on your goal. It is your own mind that does not allow you to meditate, and your untrained mind is like a garbage disposal. To work with your mind, you’ll have to be patient, you’ll have to work gradually with yourself.

I sometimes hear students say, “I have not attained anything; I have been doing meditation for thirteen years!” Are you sure that you have been doing meditation? Or did you sit and sleep or dream or think? For thirteen years you have been thinking about many other things in the name of meditation; you think about your work and your boyfriend or girlfriend. You sat for all those years in meditation but you did not really meditate, and then you complain that nothing has happened to you. Do not give your mind space to wander when you meditate, but go step by step in the process. Train yourself. First, pay attention to your posture. Learn to sit correctly. Do your practice systematically. Then work to eliminate the mental and emotional obstacles.

If meditators probe the inner levels of their being, exploring the unknown dimensions of interior life, and if they have learned a systematic and scientific method that can lead them to the next state of experience, then they can go beyond all the levels of their unconscious mind and establish themselves in their essential nature.

Soundless Sound
During deep meditation, the ancient sages heard certain sounds called mantras. In the Bible, it is said that those who have an ear to hear will hear. When the mind becomes attuned, it is capable of hearing the voice of the unknown. The sounds that are heard in such a state do not belong to any particular language, religion, or tradition. According to our tradition, which is a meditative tradition more than five thousand years old, mantra and meditation are inseparable, like the two sides of a coin.

All the existing spiritual traditions of the world use a syllable, a sound, a word or set of words, called a mantra, as a bridge for crossing the mire of delusion and reaching the other shore of life. Mantra setu is that practice which helps the meditator make the mind one-pointed and inward, and then finally leads to the center of consciousness, the deep recesses of eternal silence where peace, happiness, and bliss reside.

There are sounds that are created by the external world and heard by the ears, and sounds heard in deep meditation. The latter is called anahata nada, the unstruck sound. Inner sounds, which are heard in deep meditation by the sages, do not vibrate in exactly the same way as sound vibrates in the external world. They have a leading quality. They lead the meditator toward the center of silence within. The following simile can help in understanding this: Imagine that you are standing on the bank of a river and you hear the current as it flows. If you follow the river upstream, you will come to its origin. There, you will find that there is no sound. In the same way, a mantra leads the mind to the silence within. That state is called “soundless sound.”

The mantra imparted by a teacher to a student is like a prescription given to a patient. There are innumerable sounds, each with a different effect. The teacher must understand which best suits a particular student, according to his or her attitudes, emotions, desires, and habits.

A mantra has four bodies or koshas (sheaths). First, as a word, it has a meaning; another more subtle form is its feeling; still more subtle is a presence, a deep intense and constant awareness of it; and the fourth or most subtle level of the mantra is soundless sound.

Many students continue repeating or muttering their mantra throughout their entire life, but never attain a state of ajapa japa—that state of constant awareness without any effort. These students strengthen their awareness, but meditate on the gross level only.

Those who go beyond this stage use special mantras that do not obstruct and disturb the flow of breath, but help regulate the breath and lead to a state in which the breath flows through both nostrils equally. In this state the breath and mind function in complete harmony and create a joyous state of mind. When students attain this state, the mind is voluntarily disconnected from the dissipation of the senses. Then they have to deal with the thoughts coming forward from the unconscious mind, that vast reservoir in which we have stored all the impressions of our lifetime. The mantra helps one to go beyond this process, creating a new groove in the mind, and the mind then begins to spontaneously flow into the groove created by the mantra. Finally, when the mind becomes concentrated, one-pointed, and inward, it peers into the latent part of the unconscious, and there, sooner or later, it finds a glittering light. Mantra is the means. Meditation is the method.

In my own practice I sit down and observe my whole being listening to the mantra. I do not remember the mantra or repeat the mantra mentally. Instead I make my whole being an ear to hear the mantra, and the mantra is coming from everywhere. This will not happen to you immediately in meditation, but when you have attained or accomplished something, it will. Then, even if you do not want to do your mantra, it is not possible to avoid it. Even if you decide that you do not want to remember the mantra, it will not be possible. Finally, even the mantra does not exist; only the purpose for which you repeat the mantra is there; you are there. The mantra might still be there, but it exists as an experience that overwhelms your whole being, and is not separate from you.

The most important role mantra plays is during the transition period that every human being will experience. A dying person’s senses do not function properly. He gradually loses the sense of sight, the tongue mumbles words that cannot be understood by others, and he is unable to express the mind’s thoughts in speech or actions. This painful and pitiable situation frightens the mind of a non-meditator. But if one remembers the mantra for a long time in such a state of loneliness, the mantra begins to lead him, and this miserable period of loneliness and agony is over. The mantra becomes his leader. Only one thought pattern is strengthened by remembering the mantra, and when it is firmly established it leads the individual to his abode of peace, happiness, and bliss.

The Art of Joyful Living
So never give up! Accept meditation as a part of your life, just as you eat, sleep, and do other things; make it your goal to have a calm mind, to have a one-pointed mind, to have a tranquil mind. Do not give that up. Meditation leaves a clear indication on your heart, which is reflected on your face. When people speak to me, I can easily tell whether or not they meditate or are even capable of meditation. Their face is the index of their heart.

You can attain the highest state of samadhi through meditation. Then you are here, yet there; you live in the world, yet above; you include all, and exclude none. When the day arrives that every man, woman, and child practices meditation, we will all attain the next step of civilization and realize the unity in all. Liberation can be attained here and now, and that experience is the ultimate goal of human life.

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Tips and warnings before sleep

• For people who own an iPod Touch or an iPhone: There are many apps which can play calming noises (like quiet rainfall, wind, etc.) to help you go to sleep. Another option is to listen to guided sleep soundtracks - a meditation to help you relax and fall asleep.
• Avoid falling asleep somewhere else in the house, such as in front of the TV. If you feel this happening, get up and prepare for bed and get yourself into bed quickly.
• Use warmth. If you're feeling cold, fix this quickly. Put on socks or a warmer layer on the bed. Fill a hot water bottle or microwave a wheat-bag. Put a warm towel over your eyes: Put a washcloth in the dryer and lay it over your eyes. It will relax your eyes as well as warming you a little.
• Know yourself. Only you can know what does and does not keep you awake at night. If reading sends you to sleep, by all means use it but if it's revving you up, avoid it!
• Make use of a journal by your bedside. Instead of lying there worrying, write in your journal and leave the thoughts for dealing with during daytime.^[27] Use a book light to avoid disturbing others and to avoid putting on too much light. A page or two of thoughts written down can calm you enough to restore the need for sleep.
• It is very important to see your doctor or qualified health professional if you are at your wit's end about not sleeping properly. Note the signs of when it is important to seek advice. The following symptoms are a sign that you need to seek your doctor's advice: your insomnia is stretching out over a period of months; you constantly feel tired during the daytime, rarely refreshed; pain or a need to visit the toilet are regularly waking you up; your relationships with other people are suffering because you're feeling tired, irritable, and snap easily; you're taking prescription drugs and have noticed the sleep problems since starting them.^[28]
• Abandon thoughts about "being a wreck tomorrow". This self-fulfilling thinking will cause less sleep.Think of other things immediately and forgive yourself for feeling worried. If nothing else works, tell yourself that it is better to lie there with your eyes shut and not sleeping than to be getting up and activating your mind without energy to drive it. Just lying there with closed eyes will often result in you drifting off to sleep - you will drift in-and-out of sleep even if you do not realize it. As a result, you will be more relaxed in the long run. Of course, if about 15 minutes pass and you are still not asleep you should get up and do something not too physically or mentally demanding (read, do a puzzle, write in a journal, etc). Then go back to bed.
• If someone else sharing the bed is the cause of your not falling asleep, discuss the problem together. Perhaps it's a case of spending a night in the guest bed when your bed partner is ill or stressed about a deadline, etc. There is no sense in two people missing out on sleep, and this can impact your relationship negatively if you both have a poor night's sleep.
• Try sleeping with a pet; this can be very calming knowing that there is a living being with you. If your pet moves a lot, however, this can backfire on you!
• Find something that makes a very quiet, steady sound. A small fan on a low setting or a real, non-electric, ticking watch or clock are ideal. For some the sound could make sleep harder, but for others, the steady beat of the ticking, or the quiet hum of an electric motor in a fan can be very peaceful.
• Playing an instrument before sleeping can help to soothe you, calm your mind and force you to focus and concentrate on a task. Make sure it's classical music!
• Tell yourself you are tired; start saying this before you go to bed and as you are settling in bed.
• Having sex promotes your ability to sleep.^[29]
• Make a conscious effort to relax your tongue, jaw, and face along with the rest of your body.
• In my opinion the best way to prepare yourself to have a well deserved sleep is to first take a nice, warm shower, get a warm cup of milk and read a book while drinking your milk. While you are reading your book I prefer to be reading in my bed and with a low light on. You will soon become very tired after all that!
• Listen to calm, soothing music before bed but avoid listening to heavy metal, heavy rock, screamo etc. as these won't lull you to sleep but will instead make you feel more energetic.
• Try warm milk and nutmeg as a drink before sleep.
• If you are wake up or can't sleep for worry or other thoughts, take them out of the bedroom so that where you sleep is not where you think about these things. Find a chair in a different room for about 15-20mins to leave the thoughts there.
• Ensure you have a good few minutes of sunlight during the day.

• There are many possible reasons for having a sleeping disorder – the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of the American Psychiatric Association, for example, has an entire chapter devoted to the topic of sleep disorders, some of which can be quite complex. If you have any questions or concerns, contact a physician or other health care professional before engaging in any activity related to health and diet.
• Be responsible for your kids' nighttime habits. Watching exciting TV or playing stimulating video games right before bedtime will keep them more alert and awake. Move such viewing to earlier in the evening. And if you need to watch a movie before bed, watch a comedy movie or TV show.
• Be careful if you're wearing earbuds! If you roll in your sleep, the cord can be a hazard. Try a 'radio pillow', where you can plug in an MP3 player and sound comes out softly through the pillow. If you use earbuds, ensure that the wire goes around the back instead of the front.
• Always check the contra-indications of essential oils as some cannot be used for pregnancy, lactating mothers, people who are immuno-suppressed, etc.
• Avoid self-diagnosing your sleep problem. Talk to your doctor about any problems you're experiencing with insomnia or other sleeping problems. It is important to identify the source of the problems and get a proper remedy. Ask your doctor about routine changing suggestions (i.e., tips for breaking a poor habit),what non-addictive sleeping aids are available, if there are any possible herbal remedies before having totackle the heavier medications (for example, valerian), and whether there are any suitable nutritional and exercise options.^[30] Since prescription medications can bring about addiction or drowsiness, exploring all the possible options is prudent.
• Avoid taking over-the-counter remedies. These can lead to their own set of problems, or can mask the symptom of something more serious. Be careful with herbal remedies that are swallowed - follow the instructions of your health professional with care and be sure to detail any other medical conditions.
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Sangeet sandhya Anchoring

Hi,

Ganesh vandana se start kerte hai jisme aap teen betiya ya bahuo se dance kerva sakte hai.

1. Anchor=Aaee sangeet ki ye raat

laai sapno ki baarath

sajaniya hai saajan ke saath

rahe sada haatho main aise haath

aai sangeet ki ye raat

Aaiye swagath kerte hai hamaare nanhe kalakaroo se

Jo school main kerte hai intejaar ki kub bajegi chuti ki belll

taaliya bajaker swagat kijiye kyunki aapke saamne leker aaye hai ye

All is well.

Ab yahaa aap bachoo ka 3 4 gaano ka remix dance dikha sakte hai.

2.

Khushiyo ki raat hogi ' jasna jara datt ke hoga

Meri bahan ki shaadi ,andaaz jara hatt ke hoga|

Phir hone wale dulhe se

AAiye aapko hum hamaari puri family se milate hai waise tho aap sabhi se mil chuke hai lekin ek modern introduction tho bantha hai.

Yahaan per koi bhi dance ya remix add ker sakte hai.

3.

Tho introduction shuru kerte hai dulheji aapke dada sasur aur sasuji se

Maa papa hai ye mere

aur dada hai ye tere

sanghvi hai ye India ke....nahi nahi sanghvi hai ye mann ke

chahe kitni bhi taklif ho sharir main

per bhagvan se milne jaayenge tann ke

Iske baad aap jo dance aanee wala hai uske baare main keh sakte hai jaise

Ye betiya tho mahendi racha ke nakhre dikha ke

udd jaayegi phur se hame tadpa ke

Yahaan pe ladies ya ladkiyo ka dance kerva sakte hai

4.

Tho aaiye dulhe ji aapko ab aapke saas sasur se milate hai

Bhai ne apni jindagi ki shuruaath "S"se ki

S" se Suraj

S" se subah

S" se saaj

S" se sangeet

S" se swagat

S" se sukhi

Aur kismat ki baath dekhiye ki bhai ki " S" se yaani sushila [bhabi] se S se Sagai aur S se shaadi ho gai. Phir kya tha ...

S" se saas

S" se sasur

S" se saala

S" se saali

S" se sasuraal

S" se sankat ho gaya yaar

S" se shaadi hui aur ghar S" se swarg ban gaya

Aur main S" se "swargwasi'.

Yahaan pe aap dostho ka dance kerva sakte hai ye kehker ki

DEKHIYE DOSTHO KA DHAMAAL

BAJAOOGE THALI THO DIKHEGA KAMAAL

5.

Ab miliye aapke kaka aur kaki sasur se

Subah dukaan jaana , shaam ko ghar aana|

Paisa kamana aur Khakra khana

Khakra khane main jinko aata hai aanand

jeevan main muskerate rahna jinko hai pasand

aise hai hamare Ramesh bhai jinko dekhker

Man main muskera rahi hai hamaari bhabi mand mand....

Yahaa bhi koi dance kerva sakte hai

6.

Ab aapko milate hai aapke chote kaka kaki sasur se

Bhai bhabi dono bahuth hee hai shoukin

Inko chahiye apni life namkin

Kuch kaaranvash aaj hai ye thode gumgeen

Nahi tho ker dete is mahfil ko aur bhi rangeen

Karj dosti ka ada keraga koun

Dosth na ho tho dosthi karega koun

E khuda in dostho ko salamath rakhna

Warna dostho ki shaadi main dance karega koun|

Ye kehker again ek dostho ka dance kerva sakte hai.

7.

Ab dijiye Sali ka introduction

Waise tho aapki bahuth saari saaliya hai lekin main tho ek hi hai, jise dekhker aap bahuth khush ho rahe hai aur soch rahe hai ki saali tho aadhi gharwali hoti hai ,

lekin jayada khush math hoiye dulhejo kyuki hamari dulhan soch rahi hai

DEVAR THO AADHA WARR HOTHA HAI

Saaliji bahuth khush hoker naach rahi hai kyuki "DI" ke chale jaane se line ho jaayegi "Clear"

Aur chala jaayega "Fear

Kabja ho jaayega ab mera

Tere kamre pe tere kapdo pe

Raj karoogi pure ghar pe aur

Rok lag jaayegi hamaare jaghdo pe'

Ye bhi kah sakte hai

Sali is Beauty

Wife is Duty

Sali is Passion

Wife is Tension

Sali is cool

Wife is fool

Sali is Tuty fruity

Wife is Kismat futi

Sali is freshcake

Wife is Earth quake.

Is beech main ek aur dance kerva sakte hai.

8.

Ab saale ka parichay

Jaise ki aap sub jaante hai ki

Waise tho saari khudai ek taraf

aur joru ka bhai ek taraf

Cricket khelna mujhe hai pasand

per papa kehte hai ki PADH PADH PADH

T.V dekhna mujhe hai pasand

Per Mummy kahti hai ki CUT CUT CUT

Fighting kerna mughe hai pasand

Per didi kahthi hai aa mujse LAD LAD LAD

H ER EXAM KE BAAD ye khud kahtha ha

Exam abhi khatam nahi huee hai mere dosth

RE TEST abhi baaki hai

Phi ek Dance......

9.

Ab aap public se dulhe aur dulhan ka intro kerva sakte hai

Dulhan ko bachpan se cartoon dekhne ka bahuth shauk hai shayad isiliye inke mummy papa jab ladka dekhne gaye tho khub jaanch parakhker chun ke pasand kiye jisse ab dulhan jindagi bhar cartoon ko miss na ker sake..

Aur jab dulhe ke maa papa ne ladki chuni tho unhe yaad aaya ki hamare bete ko bachpan se bhuth preth ke serial pasand aate hai tho ab aap hi sochiye unhone kya dekher ladki ko chuna....

Wasi hamare ghar ki beti hai NO .1

School main bhi jo lathi thi NO.1

Sundertha main bhi jo lagthi hai NO.1

Kaam kaaj aur sanskaar main bhi jo NO.1

Khushkismath hai aap jo aapko mili hai

Hamaare ghar ki beti NO.1

Yahaa ek aur dance dikha sakte hai..

10.

Emotional commentry on beti

Betiya sagai hone ke baad apne papa se puchthi hai -- papa kyu aapne apne beto ko apna naam diya kyu apni beti ko kyu nahi.....

Bhai se puchthi hai--

Bhai bachpan se hum saath main khele saath main padhe , saath main khaye piye , masthi, dhamaal kiya phir kyu mujhe is ghar se durr bhej rahe ho

Maa se puchthi hai--

Maa tune thoo mujhe janam diya , teri laadli hoo main maa , tere kaleje ka tukda hoo main maa phir aap muje apne ghar se paraye ghar bhej rahi hai

Tub maa papa aur bhai kehte hai--

Beti ye tum kaisi baath ker rahi ho , Bachpan se teri shaadi ke sapne sanjoye the Ab tho wo sapne pure kerne ke din aaye hai , hame jeevan ka sabse bada daan kerna hai jo hai KANYADAAN .

Aur beta ye tho duniya ki reet hai ki beti ko apne ghar bhejna hee padtha hai beti tho parai amanath hothi hai, Ek na ek din tho usee jaana hee padtha hai,

Aur tumhe tho ek nahi do do gharo ki maan maryada ko sambhalna hai

Ek nahoi do do maa papa ki Kul ki Ijjath ko bhadana hai

HUm bhi ro ro ker tumhe khush hoker aashirwaad ke saath vida kerna hai.............

Is tarah ye sangeet sandhya ke END kiya jaatha hai

Is emotional commentry ke baad mahoul relax kerne ke liye Ek game rakh dijiye

11.

Game--

"Mr and Mrs Ilahabaad waale'" jub "Pratigya " ka "Pavitra Ristha" leker "Gulaal" chantthe hue "Laaptaganj" pahunche tho unki "Bahanee" boli "Baba aiso var dhundo" ki "Tarak mehta bhi apne chasma ulta kerke dekhe" "Tere liye" "Sathiya" yahaan "Main ghar ghar kheli" "Dance India dance" main gai "Comedy circus" main bhi gai, aur tum..."Sajan re jhoot math bolo "Tere mere sapne ek hoge tabhi tho "Hamari devraani " aayegi warna "Krishna ben khakkra wala" khakra banate banate "Master chef India" main pahuch gaithi "C.I.D" bhi kuch nahi ker paayega aur meri "Bidaai" rah jaayegi please ek baar keh do ki "Bath hamari pakki hai" warna mera "Sasural gada phool" ki tarah "Papad pol' ki tarah "Jhalak dhikla ja" kehta rahega, aur Log kahenge-----------hmmm-----"YE kya ristha kehlata hai"...

Isme aap puchiye ki ye kya story hai

Ye serial ki story hai

Aur isme kitne serial ke naam hai...

12.

Thaliyo ke liye

Wo hoth kya jisme laali nahi

Wo upwan kya jisme maali nahi

Wo sasuraal kya jisme saali nahi

Aur wo mahfil kya jisme taali nahi

Lab surkh sharbathi ho jaaye

Gaalo per cha jaaye laaliya

aur is dance per ho jaaye jordaar Taliya

Bahaaro ki mahfil suhani rahegi

lab pe khusi ki kahani rahegi

chamakte rahege khushiyo ke ye sitare

agar aapki taaliyo ki meharbaani rahegi.

Aapko meri sangeet sandhya ki tauyaari kaisi lagi

Please write comments .

Jai jinendra.

Bye.

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